Life – Page 177 – Grounded African

My future is now…

#life #lawofafftraction #focus #positivevibes #futureisnow

I have spent the past few weeks reading books on the law of attraction to get my mind back into a positive space. When I attracted all the good in my life in the last 4 years, I did it from a place of positivity and of faith. This year has been hard. A lot of challenges have cropped up and somewhere along the line I lost my positivity and my faith. You can read more about how got started on this here.

Before I go any further though, I just want to take a moment to say thank you to those that have shown Grounded African such great support by liking and sharing my page, my posts. A special thank you to those who approach me in person and message me to let me know how much my posts get you thinking. Your support and great feedback have kept me going. Thank you!

Yes, I have also found that and attitude of gratitude goes a long way to building a positive spirit so I have started to be more conscious of all that I have and that I have achieved in my life. I started a manifestation journal about 3 weeks ago. On my first page, I simply took the time to list the things that I have achieved. Now, I am no rich kid and by society’s standards I don’t have “a lot”. I don’t drive a fancy car and I don’t live in a fancy home. I do however drive a car that I own free and clear. This more than some have. I do have a home that I have purchased with my blood, sweat and tears. I still have that bond to pay off but I finally took the plunge and committed to that huge debt 3 years ago. Once again, more than most have. I am independent. The list is actually quite long and I am very grateful and proud of all that I have and have done.

Next up I just listed what I am grateful for. It’s one thing to acknowledge what you have done, it’s another to be grateful for it all. So I listed all that I am grateful for. Once again, that list is long so I won’t bore you with the details. I don’t know about you but every time I do this exercise, I feel a deep sense of peace because materially, I am blessed and I know that those blessings will be multiplied in the future.

Lastly, I listed all the things that I want to manifest in my life. Once again it is a long list 😜. One thing I did notice though. Sometimes, what I really desire went against what is logically the best thing for me. So I wrote down the “best thing for me” and tried to make peace with it. Let me tell you, it’s been three weeks and peace was not to be found anywhere🤦‍♀️. I decided that I will accept what I truly desire. The funny thing is that once I accepted what I believed I truly desired, it actually became easier to let it go. I was only able to let it go though once I released all the “stuck energy” that I had been holding on to. It has been a very weird experience.

Ok ok so now I guess you are wondering about the “stuck energy”, aren’t you? It came as a shock to me actually. I was scrolling through Twitter when an affirmation that was recommended for Capricorns for the week peaked my interest. The affirmation was as follows:

#affirmation #positivevibes #lawofattraction #letgo

I honestly wasn’t expecting anything to happen anytime soon so imagine my shock when, within about 2 hours of starting to say the affirmation, I was balling my eyes out about everything that has ended in my life over the past 4 and a half months. (There has been so much that has come to an end). All the pain and anger that I didn’t even realise I was holding onto just came flooding out of me. I cried myself to sleep, I woke at 4 and cried and cried and cried until i left for work that morning. What a release! I continue to say the affirmation daily because I can feel that I am not done yet but I have to admit that I am a lot more at peace. The stuff and people whom I had given my power to definitely no longer have it. 😉 I have taken my power back!!!! Whoop Whoop!😁

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Don’t be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams – Ralph Waldo Emerson

#successmindset #life #positivevibes #inspiration #motivation #quotes

I was sitting and wondering what to do about a particular problem that I have been facing of late. This problem has been consuming me and I have been raging against it and I just need to stop allowing this. While I was pondering how to move on from it I came across the quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson on IG. It just resonated with me and knew I had found a solution.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” – Dr Wayne Dyer

I realised that I had been looking at the issue all wrong. I have been living in fear of the worst coming to pass rather than focusing on what I truly desired, taking the necessary action to get the ball rolling and trusting that it will happen. Faith after all is said to move mountains.

Don’t be pushed by your problems

There has been so many times in my life where I have acted out of desperation to try and solve the problem at hand. When I get into this mode I become anxious, I generate a lot of negative energy and I often make decisions that are not aligned to my vision for myself. This of course creates a negative loop and things can quickly spiral out of control.

I see it happening at work as well sometimes where we will start a project with intention A, something in the environment changes, and we get sidetracked and react to the environmental change and lose focus on the original intention. The decisions we make take us on a new path that often leads to failure. It is so easy to get side tracked and lose sight of the goal. It wastes time and energy.

I see it happen in my relationships with people. In my last relationship, we got sidetracked by a particular problem we were facing. We were so caught up in the problem that we forgot that we had vowed that it would always be us vs the problem rather than me vs him. The sad part is that we made an excellent team, we just forgot to work as one in this particular instance and it completely tore us apart.

Be led by your dreams

That line says it all…be led by your dreams. Focus on the positive. Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Focus on where you want to be and the decisions you make will take you closer to achieving your dreams.

I have a friend that the rest of my friends in this particular circle always site as a fantastic example of how you will get what you want if you focus on it. She had made a decision to marry a man that met certain criteria. Initially she made lifestyle choices that would always bring her into contact with this type of man. She met many frogs but she never gave up on her dream and never wavered in her criteria. In the end, he found her. He was exactly what she said she wanted. Today they are happily married and have a family. Whenever I doubt my ability to manifest what I want I think of her story and put new energy into my dreams.

I have been reading a few books to get myself back into a positive space and to focus on the things I want to attract into my life. I highly recommend them if you are looking to get into a more positive space and want to achieve your goals and dreams:

Manifest now by Idil Ahmed
The Power of the subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy

Both books help you change your mindset and share great affirmations that you can use to create confidence in yourself, create a positive mindset and even to change your relationship with money if you constantly have money issues.

I’ll leave you with my favourite quote from The Alchemist:

Day 5 of my new reality… a world without my mum in it.

It is day 5 of my new reality. 5 days of life without my mum. My quiet, fiercely independent and loving mum. My heart is broken that she is no longer with us but I know that she is now at peace. She suffers no more and that gives me great comfort. She taught me much in the 45 years I was blessed to call her my mum. These are just a few of the valuable lessons I learned from her:

1. You are responsible for your life

Like I have mentioned above and in a previous post, my mum was a fiercely independent woman. She didn’t sit around waiting for anyone, she just quietly went about doing what needed to be done. She was dedicated to her family, to her job and to her God. Through her example, my sisters and I have learnt responsibility and diligence and have each become independent woman ourselves.

2. Being a mother means loving and accepting your children and being there for them always

I remember calling my mum to tell her that I was pregnant. I was 34 and single and felt like I had let my parents down terribly. She quietly listened and then said to me “It is what it is my child. It’s ok. Let me know what I can do for you”. She did not judge me. She didn’t make me feel guilty, she just accepted me and loved me anyway. She was a woman of few words and seldom voiced her emotions to me but she showed me her love by her actions. True to her words, she was there for me in every way that I allowed her to be and even in ways that I never expected. She loved her grandson dearly and he lived for that one week every holiday that he would spend with her. Thank you Mummy.

3. Actions speak louder than words

Like I said, my mum was a woman of few words. What she didn’t say, she showed. One of the ways she showed her love was through her baking. She loved to bake and she was an excellent baker. She set the standard very high and it is very seldom that I taste someone else’s cakes and find them up to the standard of my mum’s. My mum never said “welcome to my home” or “happy to be here” with words. She said it with a her baking. She knew everyone in and outside of the family’s favourites and made a point of baking it when she knew they were coming or if she was going to visit them. She took great pleasure in delighting everyone in this way. In our home, Sunday night’s were treasured because she would bake 2-3 different delights every Sunday afternoon and that was how we spent our Sunday evenings, savouring my mum’s delicious baking as a family before we started a new week.

4. Your smile lights up the world

Some of the comments that I have often gotten from people over the past few days is “I am going to miss her smile”, “whenever you met her she would always give you a big smile”, “she was always smiling”, “she had a lovely smile”. My mum delighted everyone she met with her smile. She used it to make them feel welcome in her presence. She used it brighten their day. Her smile lit up the world of everyone around her. It was a simple yet effective and gracious tool that she used to make this world a better place everyday. Even while she was in the hospital. No matter how terrible she was feeling, whenever her grandchildren came to see her, she would find the energy to sit up straight and put on her brightest smile when she saw them. It blew me away to see her do that every time.

There is of course so much more that I could share about my mum and I know that as I continue to reflect on her life and my experience of her in the coming weeks and years, there will be a lot more valuable lessons that will come to mind. Even though my son only got to spend 10 years with her, he was blessed to have lots of quality time with her and she instilled in him lots of values and of course, a love for baking.

Thank you for being you Mummy. You were authentic and an inspiration. I am blessed to call you my mum.

Rest In Peace Mummy.

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