I was sitting and wondering what to do about a particular problem that I have been facing of late. This problem has been consuming me and I have been raging against it and I just need to stop allowing this. While I was pondering how to move on from it I came across the quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson on IG. It just resonated with me and knew I had found a solution.
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” – Dr Wayne Dyer
I realised that I had been looking at the issue all wrong. I have been living in fear of the worst coming to pass rather than focusing on what I truly desired, taking the necessary action to get the ball rolling and trusting that it will happen. Faith after all is said to move mountains.
Don’t be pushed by your problems
There has been so many times in my life where I have acted out of desperation to try and solve the problem at hand. When I get into this mode I become anxious, I generate a lot of negative energy and I often make decisions that are not aligned to my vision for myself. This of course creates a negative loop and things can quickly spiral out of control.
I see it happening at work as well sometimes where we will start a project with intention A, something in the environment changes, and we get sidetracked and react to the environmental change and lose focus on the original intention. The decisions we make take us on a new path that often leads to failure. It is so easy to get side tracked and lose sight of the goal. It wastes time and energy.
I see it happen in my relationships with people. In my last relationship, we got sidetracked by a particular problem we were facing. We were so caught up in the problem that we forgot that we had vowed that it would always be us vs the problem rather than me vs him. The sad part is that we made an excellent team, we just forgot to work as one in this particular instance and it completely tore us apart.
Be led by your dreams
That line says it all…be led by your dreams. Focus on the positive. Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Focus on where you want to be and the decisions you make will take you closer to achieving your dreams.
I have a friend that the rest of my friends in this particular circle always site as a fantastic example of how you will get what you want if you focus on it. She had made a decision to marry a man that met certain criteria. Initially she made lifestyle choices that would always bring her into contact with this type of man. She met many frogs but she never gave up on her dream and never wavered in her criteria. In the end, he found her. He was exactly what she said she wanted. Today they are happily married and have a family. Whenever I doubt my ability to manifest what I want I think of her story and put new energy into my dreams.
I have been reading a few books to get myself back into a positive space and to focus on the things I want to attract into my life. I highly recommend them if you are looking to get into a more positive space and want to achieve your goals and dreams:
- Manifest now by Idil Ahmed
- The Power of the subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy
Both books help you change your mindset and share great affirmations that you can use to create confidence in yourself, create a positive mindset and even to change your relationship with money if you constantly have money issues.
I’ll leave you with my favourite quote from The Alchemist:
Grounded African 