Yesterday I received the most beautiful bouquet of flowers from our team at work. It was a congratulatory gift for completing my BA degree. I was thrilled and very grateful for the gesture. It was only this afternoon that the thought occurred to me that I don’t give myself enough credit for my achievements. I need to acknowledge me more often and, more importantly God, for only through Him are all things possible.
So I want to take this moment to acknowledge God for making it possible for me to complete my degree while I was:
- Getting my head around a new role in which I had to relearn old skills and learn new skills all at the same time (I am still not where i need to be but I will get there)
- Acting as chairperson in our body corporate for the last 2 years
- Buying a new home and adjusting to a new relationship at the same time
- Dealing with the end of that relationship, the loss of my mother and the break-up of my family all at the same
- Giving my son and I the space to grieve together for the loss of my mum in particular
- Adjusting to a diagnosis of diabetes and learning to live with it and how to overcome it
- Working on healing and growing myself through the use of self-help and spiritual books
- Working from home during the lockdown and trying to ensure that my son maintains a certain level of education all by myself. At the same time I did the Mind Power course. I also had to ensure that all the lockdown regulations were being followed in our complex and prepare for and write my exams. (I have to say that it was exhausting juggling everything and I still can’t believe that I passed my exams1 )
- Supporting my son in all his sporting endeavors and making sure we maintain a good quality life and that he hardly ever feels neglected and just doing my best to be as good a parent as I know how to him.
- Losing my favourite aunt almost exactly year after losing my mum. The whole experience was like losing my mum all over again.
- I started writing and got my blog going and have written on other platforms like Medium an Quora. I have enjoyed this tremendously!
- Fitting in assignments between travels to Dubai and China.
- And of course, trying to be a good friend, sister, daughter, cousin, aunt and niece to those I love and have given me their support.
It’s been an amazing 6 years. Most of the stuff mentioned happened in the last 3 of the 6 years. So it’s been quite a ride! Phew! I deserve those flowers at the very least I think ..lol.
I am taking a break this semester and aim to start my honours in Psych next year. I am so excited about that! It will be my first honours degree! My end goal is a Phd in Psych and I have no doubt that I will achieve. It’s only a matter of time. God will go before me and make a way.
I have done this exercise for another reason as well. Listing your achievements helps to change your mindset from one of lack to one of abundance and success. The thinking is that you will remind yourself of what it feels like to be successful so that you continue to feel those feelings and draw more success to yourself. Nope, it’s not hogwash. I invite you to think back to a time when you were feeling really great about something. What other good things suddenly started happening to you? I can guarantee you that you received a welcome surprise while you were in that state. If you pay attention , you will find that these welcome surprises pop up when you are thrilled about something good that has happened in your life or are in a state of deep and authentic gratitude.
I encourage you to go ahead and list your achievements and all the things you had to overcome to get there. Remind yourself of what a successful person you already are, because you are!
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