Reflection
Today would have been my parents’ 53rd wedding anniversary. I am so grateful that they came together at a point in their lives. I wouldn’t be here if they didn’t, and I definitely wouldn’t be the person I am today. I am grateful that I was able to experience a loving home when I was younger. I am grateful that in the moments that counted, they always tried to ensure that we experienced it as a family. Sometimes life got in the way but our family was most important to them. I cannot remember a Christmas or Easter when they were not at home.
From this I learnt that family was important to both of them. No matter what, they were always inclusive of each other’s extended families as well. When I was a kid, my dad would happily drive us to various towns and cities to visit family. I loved those trips.
What I learned from each of them
From my mum I learned independence and resilience. My mother got her driver’s license when I was in high school or earlier. She was one of the few mum’s in the neighbourhood who drove. She worked as a bookkeeper when I was in primary school and then as the church’s secretary and bookkeeper until the day she died. She was not afraid of technology and took the necessary courses to upgrade her skills. She was an amazing baker and this became her side hustle. In all honesty, I did not appreciate how fantastic my mum was while she was here. A lot of what she did, she did with such grace that it looked it was perfectly normal for women to do what she did. I am grateful that I at least get to appreciate her now.
As far as I am aware, my dad never felt threatened by my mum’s independence. Perhaps it’s because his mum was also a strong independent woman. He encouraged me to be independent and to never let a man make me feel inferior. He was also an independent soul that tried his hand at entrepreneurship more than once. He was not successful with his ventures but, it hasn’t stopped him from trying. He is in his 70’s and still trying out new business ideas. My dad is also very curious and one of our family historians. I guess I get my curiosity from him.
A Question for You
No two parents are perfect. What is one good thing in your life today that you feel grateful for that was shaped by your parents?
Quote of the Day
“Being grateful for family doesn’t mean they’re perfect, it means you see their worth.”
Unknown
Grounded African 