Comfort zones are overated

“If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”

Paulo Coelho

I don’t know about you but I am not one for New Year’s resolutions. I stopped making them a few years ago when I realised that I will make the necessary changes when I am ready to and not just at the beginning of the year. Every day is a new day and a new opportunity to do or become something different if I so choose. Change requires stepping out of your comfort zone and there in lies the problem. Fortunately I have found myself doing it more and more often of late and it is actually exciting. It’s scary but definitely exciting.

One of the last times I stepped out of my comfort zone was last year when I made the choice to surrender to guidance rather than try to control everything in my life. I had read the book ‘The Surrender Experiment’ by Michael A Singer and his experience just made total sense to me. The quote below from the book really grabbed my attention and I really wanted to find out what if I could do the same.

Image: Readwise

This has not been an easy journey thus far but it been pretty cool as the same time. I am more open to doing things that would never have done before especially at work. I have followed my instincts which has led to me feeling more at peace because I know that I am being guided. The outcomes have generally been better than expected. New opportunities have popped up which I am looking forward to experiencing.

It is pretty cool to see how free will comes into play. We always have choices and by allowing myself to be guided, I am not giving up my free will but using my free will to make the choice. I never ever understood that before. I thought that by saying “Lord, your will not mine” I was giving up my free will and that scared the day lights out of me. Thankfully, now I know better.

I have also made a few errors in choices because I wasn’t paying attention to my instincts, especially of late. As a result, I have seen doors closing but to be honest, the closed doors have actually being a relief. It actually feels like by closing the doors, the Universe is “recalculating” my route to my desired destination. It’s pretty awesome!

So yes, I have stepped out of my comfort zone of controlling everything and it feels scary but awesome. My hands are open to release what needs to leave and accept what is meant for me. Life is for the living after all. I highly recommend this journey especially if you are feeling ‘stuck’ in your life. It’s quite a ride😁


Daily Quote: Andy Warhol

“When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can’t make them change if they don’t want to, just like when they do want to, you can’t stop them.”

Andy Warhol

People do what works for them. Once I accepted this fact, I found it a little easier to accept people’s behaviors or mindsets and let them be. It has not been easy though and I still struggle with it when it comes to the people I love most dearly.

My job is me. Your job is you. The changes I make will attract the people I need on my journey but it may not bring about your change and I am learning to be okay with it and walk away where I need to simply because my job is me.

Autumn leaves. Quote by Andy Warhol
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Daily Quote: Albert Einstein

“A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be.” Albert Einstein

How often do we find ourselves fixated on what we think something should be, which can lead to great disappointment, rather than just appreciating what is before us here and now and as is? How much faster would we be able to grow ourselves, our relationships, our communities etc if we appreciated what is so that we are able to improve on that which needs actually needs improving/changing?

A dawn sky with stars and quote by Albert Einstein
Quote by Albert Einstein. Image by Canva

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