Your job is you. My job is me.

The most valuable life lesson that I learned over the past 3 years, is that my job is me and your job is you. It’s a hard lesson to learn as someone who is always trying to ‘rescue’ people.

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It goes hand in hand with lesson that people will only change when they are ready to. And some are never ready to and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Just over 3 years ago I found myself in a situation when a person that I loved dearly just cut me off without any explanation. I could not wrap my head around it and everyone put pressure on me to mend the relationship but they had made it clear that they did not want to communicate with me. I was eventually advised to let it go as this person’s soul has chosen to walk a certain path. There was a lesson that they needed to learn which required them to walk a different path on this leg of their journey. This actually gave me a bit of peace and helped re-inforce the lesson I had already learnt which was that my job was me. I have no control over the decisions that others made for themselves but I do have control over the decisions that I make for my son and myself. I do not have control over the lens through which people chose to view me or my actions. All I can do is put my best foot forward every day and trust that I will have a postive impact on the right people at the right time. I don’t have control over the outcome, as that is in God’s hands but I do get to choose the direction I would like to take in life and the same applies to you.

I will keep it short and sweet today for a change. What’s the most valuable life lesson you have learnt is. Let me know in the comments.


Quote of the day: Paulo Coelho

“Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose – and commit myself to – what is best for me.”

Paulo Coelho

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Daily Quote: Andy Warhol

“When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can’t make them change if they don’t want to, just like when they do want to, you can’t stop them.”

Andy Warhol

People do what works for them. Once I accepted this fact, I found it a little easier to accept people’s behaviors or mindsets and let them be. It has not been easy though and I still struggle with it when it comes to the people I love most dearly.

My job is me. Your job is you. The changes I make will attract the people I need on my journey but it may not bring about your change and I am learning to be okay with it and walk away where I need to simply because my job is me.

Autumn leaves. Quote by Andy Warhol
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