Your job is you. My job is me.

The most valuable life lesson that I learned over the past 3 years, is that my job is me and your job is you. It’s a hard lesson to learn as someone who is always trying to ‘rescue’ people.

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It goes hand in hand with lesson that people will only change when they are ready to. And some are never ready to and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Just over 3 years ago I found myself in a situation when a person that I loved dearly just cut me off without any explanation. I could not wrap my head around it and everyone put pressure on me to mend the relationship but they had made it clear that they did not want to communicate with me. I was eventually advised to let it go as this person’s soul has chosen to walk a certain path. There was a lesson that they needed to learn which required them to walk a different path on this leg of their journey. This actually gave me a bit of peace and helped re-inforce the lesson I had already learnt which was that my job was me. I have no control over the decisions that others made for themselves but I do have control over the decisions that I make for my son and myself. I do not have control over the lens through which people chose to view me or my actions. All I can do is put my best foot forward every day and trust that I will have a postive impact on the right people at the right time. I don’t have control over the outcome, as that is in God’s hands but I do get to choose the direction I would like to take in life and the same applies to you.

I will keep it short and sweet today for a change. What’s the most valuable life lesson you have learnt is. Let me know in the comments.


Author: groundedafrican

Proudly South African mum to a bright and gorgeous young human. Employee. Life Coach in the making. Blogger. Fascinated with and passionate about people and helping them grow.

13 thoughts on “Your job is you. My job is me.”

  1. My children tell me this often. My husband has two children and grandchildren. Our children were adults on their own when we met and married. His children still have not accepted me after thirteen years. My children remind me when his kids visit, Mom you take care of you, and not worry about them. I love my kids, they help mom a lot.

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    1. Sounds like you did an amazing job of raising your kids. I am sorry to hear of the issue with the other kids. 🤗🤗🤗 I pray that they will accept you one day. Knowing that this change in my person is their soul’s journey, I can only send her love and God’s protection while she is on it this path. I believe we will talk again one day.💐


  2. I have pretty much lost two long-term friendships in the last year so I know a little of how you feel. One of them was on almost nothing, and he closed down the contact between us which makes it hard to mend bridges. But his decision and as you say, you can’t change the way they think.

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      1. That’s an accurate analysis, though as you say in allude to in your blog, sad when it happens, and quite often difficult to process.

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