Ageing Gracefully

At least that is what I tell myself😜. Today’s prompt requires that I write about my favourite part of myself. Well. Since I have done quite a bit of soul searching over the course of this month, I think I will stick to the physical today. In which case, my favourite part of myself right now is my grey hair!

Embracing my greys

I made a choice to embrace my greys about 2 months ago and I am so glad I did. It felt like a weight was taken off my shoulders. God decided that I would start sprouting greys in my twenties. I was having none of that. If He had blessed me with a ‘distinguished’ grey patch in the front like my mum had I might have considered it but noooo…He decided that mine would sprout up at random. So I made box colour my friend instead. (I don’t have the patience to sit in a salon every month and have my hair done). Such has been my life for the past 20 years.

In November my cousin became a gran for the 1st time. She is 4 months older than me. While my son is only 13, and will in all likelihood not make a gran for at least another 10 years (fingers crossed), it was a milestone that made me take a look in the mirror and ask myself who I was kidding. I am getting older (never old though, just older. There is a difference. 🤣) and I need to embrace it. With people dying at younger and younger ages thanks to covid, I decided it was a blessing to be the age I am and it’s time to embrace it. For me, the symbol of my ageing is my grey hair so I embraced it.

I don’t know about you but I find that once I make a decision to accept something, especially something that I have been dreading, I find that I actually like whatever it is. Does that happen to you too? It happened when I became a non-smoker. It happened when I began intermittent fasting and now when I chose to accept my hair. I no longer look at myself in the mirror in horror. Now I give myself a big broad grin every morning and blow myself a kiss because, gosh darn it, I deserve it. 🌷

And when you want something, all the Universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

One more day to my birthday! Whoop whoop! I made it through another year and I am so grateful this past year. Not only did I make it but I grew. No, I did not grow wider physically for once (Yipee!). I grew as a person. I didn’t really have much of a choice but hey such is life. The important part is that it is all just part of the journey and I am enjoying the ride. Even the scary parts. I usually treat my birthday as a second new year and start “implementing” any changes I want to make then. This year I actually started on New Years day.

Unicorn birthday cake
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After much assessment of where I am and where I want to be, I came to realise that I don’t really live a very intentional life. I have a tendency to say I want to do certain things and even have a “why” as motivation yet, I never intentionally act on those desires. I just fall into things and never actually question if the action I find myself taking is really getting me any closer to my end goal. I tell myself it is but, hello, I haven’t exactly come anywhere close to achieving them so clearly my actions are not. I react and I definitely don’t act intentionally.

Clearly this needs to change. So I made the decision to start acting intentionally and it blows my mind how quickly the universe comes to the party. On New Years day I suddenly found myself with alone time on my hands so I started working in a new journal that I had purchased. I wrote down my goals, my words for the year (“intentional” being one of them) and I started looking for images for my vision board. I have been attempting to put one together for the past two years. I created one for my phone about a month a go but I still felt like I needed a proper board up in my room so finally it is done.

The next day I go to the doctor as my prescription needs a refill and I walk away with the distinct feeling that I must lose the weight that the doctor has been nagging me about now. I had the sense that it has to be now or I will live to regret it. As per my last blog post, I was not happy about the idea of losing weight as it is a lifestyle change that I didn’t want to make but I knew it had to be done. So what did God do, He sends me an angel in the form of Kerry, to direct me to a book and offer to go on the journey with me. I buy the book the same day and read it. While I am reading it, everything just clicks into place and I know, I just know, that this time I will succeed. Thank you God and Thank you Kerry!

You probably think I am talking a load of bull but I have experienced that “click” every time I have made a major decision in my life, especially when it is one that I have been avoiding accepting because I am scared of the new reality it will bring. In my early 20’s, I had a 5 year on again/off again relationship with a guy that I adored. We were in 2 different places in our lives and, quite frankly, we were just very immature at the time. We knew we couldn’t give each other what the other wanted but we were not prepared to let go. Then one day, he did something that made me realise that it was time to let go. It was very minor but that “click” kicked in and that was that I walked away. I did start questioning my decision after a few months but God quickly gave me a reality check and made sure that thought didn’t enter my head again. I cried for days but once I stopped I was good to go again and never looked back. When I gave up smoking, I dragged my feet about it until one day, while watching the budget speech, I just decided this was it. I was not wasting another blue dime on cigarettes, I picked up the book on giving up smoking from my book shelf (I had purchased it about a month earlier) and while I was reading it, click, click and click happened, and that was that. I haven’t picked up a cigarette in 6 years and 11 months. When I am done, I am done.

There are a few other examples I can think of but I’m sure you get the point. I heard and felt that click while reading that book so I am done with this weight and this diabetes that tried to take up residence in my body. Not today bugger. Not today! So it’s day 2 of this new journey and new reality. There are three obstacles that I need to overcome to make this work.

  1. Drinking black coffee. It’s never quite being my thing
  2. Giving up snacking. I do it when I am bored or need to think.
  3. Cut down on my carbs

Black coffee has been overcome! I had my first cup yesterday and actually enjoyed it. This evening I reached for the milk in the fridge and felt nauseous at the thought of adding it to my coffee. Mental switch officially done and dusted. Giving up snacking will be done. If i think back to my thin days, I didn’t snack as a general rule. I at when I was hungry and that was that. I ate to live and i did not live to eat and I was happy so it will not kill me not to snack. I will still be happy. My wallet will be happy with a lower grocery bill and my body will be happy because it won’t constantly have to work on digesting food.

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I am still working on the mental trick to cut down on carbs but I am not too stressed about it. One way or the other, the comfort carbs days have come to an end. Cheerio comfort carbs. Thank you for the comfort but it’s time to move on now. Do note that if you see me in the next few days and I appear a bit crabby, please bear with me, I am just adjusting to the lack of comfort carbs.

The book, for those who are interested, is about Intermittent fasting. I had researched the topic to death last year when my doctor first recommended it but there were no clicks. While reading the book, everything that I researched about banting and intermittent fasting came together in a nice little package that went …you guessed it…click. The right book at the right time. The book is called Delay, Don’t Deny by Gin Stephens if you would like to read it.

The effect is slow apparently so don’t expect a new me strolling down the street in the next few weeks but definitely in the next few months.

Welcome 47 and my New Reality! I am ready for you.

Thank you for reading. Hope you enjoyed this post. Don’t forget to like and share if did. I would love to hear your tips and tricks with Intermittent fasting . Bye for now.

OMG…The Universe is responding!!

This evening I was listening to the back end of Oprah’s Soul Sunday interview with Shauna Niequist. (I know, I had no idea who she was until this evening. Had to google her too) The interview was about her journey as shared in her book “Present over Perfect”. And yes of course it is now officially on my reading list. Anyway, there were lots of similarities to my journey so I listened to the end. While waiting for recording to load so that I could listen to the beginning, I cam across Oprah’s interview with Adyashanti. He spoke about living an authentic life and suddenly it dawned on me that I have been in a great space emotionally of late and then I realised why…

The universe is responding!!

Certain things have changed in my life over the last month or so. In the past, I have always enjoyed buying clothes. When I put on weight though , I felt really crappy about myself and the way I look. Whenever I went shopping I really struggled to find clothes that I liked and it just left me feeling more depressed about my weight and myself. Let me just say as well that those mirrors in the change rooms of clothing shops…who’s idea was that??? I swear they add at least another 10kg’s and 10cm to you. Are they trying to sell you clothes or are they secretly in cahoots with weight loss groups or maybe even psychologists because they can drive you to depression. Phew, I’ve been dying to let that all out for the longest time!😜. Sorry about the rant.

Moving on swiftly…anyway, about 3 months ago I had made a decision to make more of an effort with my appearance (I am single again after all). I started following a few older fashion bloggers on IG and could feel the stirrings of excitement about this decision sneaking in to my consciousness. I still didn’t see anything I really liked in stores but I was still hopeful. I also made a conscious effort to accept myself as I am and appreciate myself now rather wait until I lost the weight. Since December or so, the positive attitude has started to pay off! I actually have to stay away from malls now because every clothing shop I walk into has stuff that I love and screams “BUY ME!”. I feel like my old self again. I love clothes shopping again!!!!

But wait, there’s more!

Virtually every purchase has been discounted!!!! What a pleasure! It is so amazing how the Universe finds ways to give you money. In this case, I have been receiving discounts on stuff that is not even on the sale rack. Talk about living an abundant life! I feel so spoilt. Thank you! I have been saying these money affirmations to get myself back in line with the energy of money. I have also realised that I have been living with a “lack” mindset and of course, I found “lack” everywhere I looked. I made a conscious decision to live with an abundant mindset in all aspects of my life and I am starting to harvest the fruits of the seeds that I have sown financially and in other areas of my life as well. I am so excited!

“When you teach a child that a bird is named bird, the child will never see the bird again”Krishnamurti

Red parrot with Quote by Krishnamurti
Quote by Krishnamurti. Image by Canva

This quote really made me stop and think. It is a reminder that we don’t know what we think we know. That we need to remain curious and maintain a sense of wonder about the everyday things around us. The same would hold true for people as well. We should not assume that we know those we come into contact with. We should be more curious and open to learning about them.

If you would like to listen to the interview, you can find a link to it here. A direct link is also available on my Facebook page.

Bedtime calls. I go to sleep with a smile in my heart feeling grateful for the blessings that have been bestowed on me already and for those yet to come. 🙏

Have a wonderful week ahead! Thank you for reading. Please like and share if you enjoyed reading my post. Also let me know how you have see the law of attraction manifest in your life. I find it so fascinating 😁

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